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TIL
DEATH DO US PART
CHRISTIANITY OASIS
HAS PROVIDED YOU WITH THIS TIL DEATH DO US PART STUDY. MOST
HAVE HEARD OF THE WORDS TIL DEATH DO US PART BUT DO
NOT GRASP WHY MARRIAGE IS ONLY TIL DEATH DO US PART. LET US
SEEK AND FIND THE TRUTH OF TIL DEATH DO US PART TOGETHER, SHALL WE?
THIS
CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE
PROGRAM WAS DESIGNED TO SHARE THE TRUTH OF CHRISTIAN
MARRIAGE ACCORDING TO GOD'S WORD, WITH SINGLE, DIVORCED,
UNHAPPILY MARRIED AND HAPPILY MARRIED SOULS.
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GREETINGS ...
We will be answering many
questions that you may have throughout this program, so do
not get discouraged if your specific situation is not
addressed early on. Some of the information contained within
this program may not apply to you, but may apply to a family
member, friend or someone that you may encounter which you could choose to use as to help
others.
WE ARE OUR BROTHER'S
(SISTER'S) KEEPER
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WELCOME
Are you looking to ...
Get married and want to learn
how to have a righteous marriage, understand and heal from
the failures of a past marriage, heal your existing marriage
or just enhance your marriage which is going well?
If so ... You have been
led by our Lord to the right place.
Perhaps one
of the questions and/or statements below, is something that
is on your
mind and heart ...
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SINGLE NEVER MARRIED
I am single and want the picture perfect marriage
God intended me to have.
I’m scared of intimacy and I’m afraid my partner
won’t understand.
My parents got divorced and I’m so scared it will
happen to my marriage.
No one likes who I want to marry. Is that a sign I
shouldn’t get married to them?
What can I do to prepare for my love when they come?
Why am I not married yet? Isn’t everyone supposed to
get married?
I’m a Christian and I’m dating a non-Christian. Can
I still get married to them? |
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DIVORCED
I have been married before and divorced, can I
remarry?
I had bad experiences in my other marriage(s), how
do I restore trust in love?
What
if my first spouse died? Am I allowed to remarry?
What if I pushed away the one I was supposed to be with
and regret it now? |
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MARRIED BUT UNHAPPY
What if my husband or wife is unsaved?
I am married and want to restore the first love with
my spouse that I once had.
My past is negatively affecting my marriage.
My spouse and I do nothing but argue with each
other.
My spouse spends more time at work and with friends
than with me.
Since we have had kids, my spouse and I don’t have
any time for each other.
I think that I married too soon, now I’m having second
thoughts.
I think my spouse is cheating on me or know that
he/she has.
I believe that I have fallen out of love.
I want to fix my marriage.
What went wrong? What did I do? How do I fix this?
My spouse abuses me. Does God want me to stay
married?
I am considering divorce. |
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HAPPILY MARRIED BUT WANT TO ENHANCE MY MARRIAGE
Many friends are divorcing and I want Biblical
tips on keeping my marriage.
How can I make sure God is in control of my
marriage?
How can my spouse and I grow as Christians together
through our marriage? |
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Perhaps these examples do not specifically relate to your
situation, but we will be addressing many others.
Let’s
go for a walk and
talk for a bit.
If you
are considering marriage or are having problems in your
marriage ...
I would like for you to ponder on WHY you are considering
marriage or
WHY you did get married.
Do/Did
you want to?
Are/Were you forced to?
Is/Was pregnancy the reason?
Is/Was the choice
you made out of obligation?
Is/Was the choice you made out of convenience?
Are/Were you looking for a way to escape something else?
And
the ESSENTIAL question ...
Are/Were you IN LOVE?
Let’s ponder on the ORIGINS of the marriage that we want/have/had.
I’ll give
you a few different scenarios ...
Though
your story may not match perfectly ... again these are
merely examples.
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SINGLE NEVER MARRIED
There
is a young couple that went too far, too fast. The
girl ends up pregnant and they decide to marry so
everyone around them wouldn’t judge them. Now, they
are struggling to keep their marriage together and
truly do not love one another.
Everyone in my family has been divorced. Part of me
wants to fall in love and get married, but a part of
me believes that I’m going to get a divorce like everyone
else.
My past has made me afraid to be intimate. I started
dating thinking everything was okay. But, when they
wanted to be intimate, I got scared. They are never
going to want to marry me now.
I want to get married, but everyone decent seems to
be already
taken.
I don’t want to be alone all my life.
I feel that time is
running out to find someone.
I see everyone fall in love. It seems so awesome. I
want to be prepared and ready when they show up.
I’m losing hope that I’ll ever be married. |
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DIVORCED
I
was married thinking I was in love. But, guess what
... I wasn’t.
I was married and now I’ve found my soul mate and don’t want to mess
it up this time.
My spouse was married before and has children from
the last marriage. I have never had children and
feel like the marriage is falling apart because I
don’t know how to be a parent and even a spouse.
I miss being married, but my last spouse broke up
with
me. I don’t think I’ll ever be able to love again…
but I wish I could.
I want to get married again, but my Church looks
down on that. |
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MARRIED BUT UNHAPPY
My spouse and I just don’t talk anymore. We don’t
seem to have anything in common like we used to.
There is a married couple. They argue every night.
One is either never “in the mood” and/or the
other is always tired
from work.
Finances have been an issue for years
now.
They can’t seem to make each other happy
anymore. Romance has been missing. They both just
miss each other. Both wish and pray in the back of
their minds that they could go back to when they
first were married and desperately in love.
There is another married couple. The husband beats
the wife every night. The wife wants out but feels
she is breaking God’s law by leaving.
The husband spends all his time work. The wife
suspects an affair. Communication was out of the
picture years ago. She just wants the love of her
husband back.
The in laws/parents have moved in. Time alone isn’t
even an option anymore. Everyone seems on edge and
the marriage just fell apart.
A husband so desperately wants to be intimate with
his wife. But she keeps avoiding him whenever he
tried to get close.
He or she can’t get their sexual desires satisfied,
so they have gone elsewhere.
It always feels like I’m debating for time from my
spouse from my own children. I understand they are
important, but I miss the time we used to have
BEFORE we had children.
My spouse says they have fallen out of love with me.
They don’t want to be married anymore, but I don’t
want to let them go. |
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HAPPILY MARRIED BUT WANT TO ENHANCE MY MARRIAGE
I’m
a newly wed and madly in love with my spouse, but
I’ve heard it’s the hardest time in the first couple
of years of marriage. I want to be prepared to get
through it with them. How can I be prepared so we
can be strong together?
I love my spouse, but I want grow together more as
Christians with them. I heard if God is in control
of our relationship, it will really last and we will
be happier.
My spouse and I are happy, but I want to make sure
we are on the right track. I don’t want to lose this
happiness. |
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When
things go wrong in a relationship or marriage, we begin to
question if we have made a mistake or if we are to try and find
the source of the problem and make it right.
Before
we can determine the source of any concerns that we may have
in our marriage or seek the source of the problems that
may/are/did occur ...
We
MUST answer one simple question ...
DOES THE MARRIAGE HAVE A FOUNDATION OF LOVE?
DOES/DID GOD BLESS THE
MARRIAGE ?
Let me ask you something…
What makes a marriage
... A “marriage”
Is it
that little slip of paper, called a marriage license, that
we must
pay for as to be deemed as being married by mankind?
Do you really believe that?
That a piece of paper makes you
married in GOD'S EYES?
What if that tiny piece of paper that says you are married
got burned in a fire? Does that make the marriage null and
void?
Or
maybe it
is the wedding ring?
I mean
after all ... It IS made of GOLD and maybe even diamonds
which mankind has been taught to hold most near and dear.
If it
gets lost or stolen is the marriage over?
What
if you were on a cruise with someone that you loved and were to
marry and the ship sunk and you and a hundred other
passengers jumped in lifeboats and drifted to an island and
were stranded on the island for many years and you and your
loved one lived as though you were married and later died on
that Island never having a marriage license or wedding ring.
Did
God honor the LOVE?
Did
God deem it as marriage?
Or did
He deem it as living in sin?
THE QUESTION BECOMES ... IS GOD BOUND BY MAN'S CHOICES AND
MAN'S RULES REGARDING MARRIAGE SO
THAT HE MUST BLESS ALL MARRIAGES BECAUSE TWO SOULS WERE
ISSUED A MARRIAGE LICENSE BY MAN AND NOT BE ABLE TO BLESS
THOSE THAT DID NOT ABIDE BY MAN'S RULES?
GOD
FORBID !!!
Are
ALL marriages today the result of God's will ... Or the will
of those
who chose to marry?
Here
are a few scenarios that I would like for you to consider.
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Do you think God blessed the marriage where one
spouse gets abused and
married out of fear ?
What about the young couple who went a little too
far one night and the girl got pregnant. They didn’t
really know each other at all, but out of
obligation, they felt like they HAD to get married.
What about those who marry and INTEND on cheating on
their spouse from the get go?
What about those who had a few drinks, and decided
to get married the same night?
A couple, out of spite, decides to marry against the
wishes of their family.
After being divorced, a soul rushes into marriage to
avoid loneliness, tho they don't love the person.
A woman with a daughter from a previous marriage
marries a man with INTENT on sexually abusing her
daughter.
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Did
God honor these marriages?
They
DO have the rings.
They
DO
have the Marriage License.
BUT
...
Obviously, it is NOT the physical trinkets or written documentation
of a marriage that make two souls who are IN LOVE be deemed
as TRULY married IN GOD'S EYES, but rather
the TRUE LOVE between two souls as GOD knows the HEART.
The
SPIRIT of Marriage lies within the hearts of the couple.
BOTH
SOULS
The
question then becomes if a marriage is blessed by God or NOT
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Jesus shared this TRUTH with a
woman of Samaria:
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John
4:15-18
The
woman saith unto him, Sir, give me this water, that I thirst
not, neither come hither to draw. Jesus saith unto her,
Go, call thy husband, and come hither.
The woman answered and said,
I have no husband. Jesus said
unto her,
Thou hast well said, I have no husband: For thou
hast had five husbands; and
he whom thou now hast is not thy husband:
in that saidst thou truly.
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TRIVIA
TIME
The woman asked for the Spiritual Water ...
Jesus told her to go get her husband ... WHY?
She said that she had no husband ...
Jesus said you speak well for (BECAUSE) you HAVE HAD FIVE
HUSBANDS ... and HE WHOM THOU HAST NOW IS NOT YOUR HUSBAND.
Jesus is saying that because this woman had been
married five times, that in GOD'S mind, the woman was not
married.
RESEARCH
Keep in mind this event took place BEFORE the New Testament.
To find TRUTH ...
Looking at origins of
Samaritans we see that they were once Israelites and they
were bound by 10 commandments.
The woman answered that she was not married cuz by the time
this mysterious stranger had asked her to go get her husband
as to obtain the Spiritual Waters, she was convicted and in
that Spiritual realm knowing she was in the presence of a
holy being.
She asked for SPIRITUAL WATER and Jesus gave it to her.
The SPIRIT of TRUTH.
SHE
WAS NOT MARRIED IN GOD'S EYES.
This
brings up an interesting question ...
IF
A
MARRIAGE WAS NOT BLESSED BY GOD ...
Do the "rules" of marriage apply?
The Bible shares quite a bit with us about TRUE Marriages,
but keep in mind that the various authors in the Bible, are
referring to those marriages which WERE honored by God.
You
see ... Long ago, they did not do as people do these days
and just meet someone at a club, have sex that night and say
"I do" the next day as they stood before some guy who is
PAID to say ... "I now pronounce you man
and wife" ...
So,
the laws were written for the way things were to be in ... A
TRUE marriage.
So,
you may wanna keep that in mind when you read God's Word.
The
TRUTH is ...
ALL
laws cannot be applicable to ALL circumstances like some
kinda ... "One size fits all" ruling system.
Jesus
pointed this TRUTH out clearly.
In the
Bible, our Lord was tempted yet again by the Pharisees when
they asked Him a question about the LAW regarding marriage
and divorce...
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Matthew 19:3
The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and
saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away
his wife for EVERY cause? |
Jesus answered them...
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Matthew 19:4-6
Have ye not read, that he which made them at the
beginning made them male and female, And said, For
this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and
shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be
ONE flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but ONE
flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let
not man put asunder. |
Jesus
said that when two marry, they become ONE.
The
Pharisees questioned His response, using law...
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Matthew 19:7
Why did Moses then command to give a writing of
divorcement, and to put her away? |
Jesus
responded ...
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Matthew 19:8-9
Moses
because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to
put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not
so. And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his
wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry
another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her
which is put away doth commit adultery.
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This
caused concern with His disciples and they said to Jesus:
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Matthew 19:10
If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not
good to marry. |
Then Jesus said something
that we all need to HEAR and UNDERSTAND ...
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Matthew 19:11
All men cannot
receive this saying, save they to whom it is given. |
In other words ... All Laws
do not apply to all people, all of the time.
THE LAW
IS NOT, WAS NOT AND CAN NOT EVER BE ...
"ONE SIZE FITS ALL"
In particular when it comes to
LOVE.
For God IS Love.
The point being made is
that we must discern IF our marriage or potential marriage
was/is blessed by God, before we can determine what we should
do next.
Because if it was... We should find ways to bring God's will
to pass.
If
not... We need to pray about it and get His guidance on what
should be done.
HOWEVER ...
I want to be VERY clear that God can take a bad combination
that may APPEAR not
to meant to be and make it righteous, with
a lil repenting and prayer.The perfect
example is …
King David.
In
2 Samuel chapter 11 … We find that King David
desired Uriah’s wife Bathsheba, so David had sex with
her and she got pregnant. David tried to get her husband
Uriah to come lay with his wife, so that he would think
it was his own child, but he refused and
said he would not enjoy such comforts while his
brethren were at war. Then David had Uriah killed by
placing him on the front line of a war that was ongoing
between Israel and another nation, and after he was
dead, took Bathsheba to be his wife.
In
2 Samuel chapter 12 … We find that in punishment
for this, God said the child conceived between David and
Bathsheba would die and the child did die. After this a
child from David and the SAME woman became the next King
of Israel and was blessed by God. His name was Solomon.
In fact … God chose JESUS to be placed in that SAME
bloodline.
So,
this union may not have been God's will at first, but David REPENTED to GOD.
When we repent to GOD and our loving Father forgives …
God TRULY forgives:
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Psalm 103:12
As far as
the east is from the west, so far hath He removed
our transgressions from us. |
So, my friend ...
If you are being hounded by others because of your
marriage and this is the reason for many of the problems
that are occurring ... Please remember that NOBODY has
any right to try and have us carry guilt when GOD forgave
us, as tho they require that we repent to THEM as well.
NOTHING and
NOBODY can separate us from God’s Grace.
When God says, we are forgiven.
WE ARE FORGIVEN.
And if you are someone that is being judged by others and really are
trying to do what the Lord wants of you ...
Remember
this:
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Romans 8:38-39
For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life,
nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor
things present, nor things to come, Nor height, nor
depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to
separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ
Jesus our Lord. |
NOTHING OR
NOBODY CAN SEPARATE US FROM THE LOVE THAT OUR LORD HAS FOR US
OR HIS FORGIVENESS AND GRACE.
Though many would like for us
to believe this about ourselves at times, due to our
poor choices in the past which may have resulted in sin
... The Word of God
ASSURES us that our Salvation is not determined by man …
But rather by a merciful and Loving Father.
Many Religious
leaders like to use 1 Corinthians Chapter 7 as to keep women in abusive
relationships only to have the relationship end in
bitterness and even death ...
They
also like to use ... "What
God brought together, let no man put asunder"
However, that brings forth the real question ...
DID GOD BRING THAT ABUSIVE
MARRIAGE TOGETHER?
Is God then divided against Himself
because He wants Love to be FOREVER by these shared words:
"What
God brought together, let no man put asunder"
God forbid.
It is
mankind's use of marriage that has brought on the divisions
and variations of judgment.
In particular in today's society where most go from hello to
I do before establishing a foundation in friendship. Some
marry out of CON-venience, lust, trying to get away from
home, etc. ... The obvious result is division by divorce as
it was not to be in the first place.
Is it not God's will to
have them apart as they were not meant to be married and
made a poor choice?
TRUE marriage is the union of
two minds, hearts and souls and they become ONE in LOVE.
So
again ... Whether God deems a specific marriage REAL becomes THE
question to ponder.
I want to take this opportunity to say that this program is NOT a
passport to get out of a marriage so that you step out and can get
you a new man
or woman.
God Forbid ...
But, rather the TRUTH for those who
it applies to.
If you
WERE married in LOVE and in God's eyes and you have
accumulated the worldly ways and just want a way out so you
can go an follow the trends of today, as cattle to the
slaughter ...
This
program is not applicable.
HEAR
THESE WORDS ...
If the shoe fits ... Slap
that rascal on Cinderella.
If it does not
... It is not wise to
try to apply it as the results will not be the same.
He who
hath wisdom, hear this TRUTH.
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Matthew 19:11
All men cannot
receive this saying, save they to whom it is given. |
IF you
are in a bad marriage, being abused and are considering divorce…
Here
is a study that you may be interested in:
If you
want to try and find out what GOD'S WILL is and/or you really want to
learn more on how to make a marriage work and/or find ways
to enhance your existing happy marriage.
Let’s keep going!
You can read as much or as
little as you like each day and return at will.
Though you may decide to do all 7 days at one time,
or day by day for 7 days, I would like to encourage
you to start a journal with your thoughts as you go
through this program. What things stood out to you
the most? What was the hardest to accept? What
would you like to remember? What do you need to
work on?
You can write whatever you feel compelled to write.
You can create a personal journal at home, or if you
would like you can create on online blog in our
member forums. People will be able to read what you
write and encourage you or answer questions along
your way.
If you would like to create a blog online, you can
become a C-O-O-L Member and use the Til Death Do Us
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